Archives for the month of: September, 2012

Just a quick blog this week to share a link to an interesting article I spotted this week about the new Oliver James’ theory of ‘Lovebombing’.  This article really spoke to me and bore great similarity to my earlier blog about Special Time, encouraging pockets of high quality time in which parents focus love on their child and place that child in the driving seat of dialogical activity.

This ‘lovebombing’ technique is something I have frequently built into play experiences with both my sons and I can testify that it has powerful results. With my eldest, an artist, this was often achieved through joint arts activity – painting, drawing and making together – in which the accomplishment shared between us created a strong bond and gave us a mutual sense of satisfaction. With my younger child he prefers to read together or play games (in which he gives me explicit repetitive script for certain toys that place him in the role of being powerful / superhero-like / rescuer) and can be more dull from my perspective as an activity, but give me a profound sense of joy in seeing his self-esteem and empathy build step by step.

Over the last month I have increased from part to full time work, and this has had a dramatic effect on our family life. My eldest son in particular is struggling to share my attention with my many new work demands. Reading this article was timely for me to remember how it important it is that I continue to carve out time to hear my sons and preserve their wellbeing – so lovebombing is being booked into the diary as a crucial component of our family life.

Ingredients:  Collection of all shapes of fallen leaves, feathers, conker cases, twigs, pebbles (anything with an interesting texture); crayons, drinking straws, wool, stapler, pretty crepe or sugar paper.

The Big Sell: Let’s celebrate Autumn!

Strategy:  There’s something about September that I find really comforting – the fading firey leaves seem to coat the world in a blanket that promises snuggly jumpers, hot chocolate and Christmas stockings are just around the corner.

If you and your child love to harvest interesting fallen Autumn detritus, why not turn them into a hanging mobile to display in a window?

  1. Simply collect an array of interesting leaves, feathers, bark etc… and use crayons to make rubbings on pretty crepe or sugar paper. Look at the detail of veins and differing shapes with your child.
  2. Cut out your rubbings in shapes and sizes of all different leaves
  3. Make a triangular frame by sellotaping together 3 drinking straws (use the bendy bits to form the corners).
  4. Hang your leaves from the frame by stapling to wool and attach more wool at the top by which to hang your finished mobile.

The verdict:

Banish post-summer and ‘returning to school’ blues by celebrating the changing seasons around you, and make those walks to school fun (while the sun still holds out) by collecting new finds each time you go out to add to the mobile.

I received an email from the National Trust this week, who are promoting their campaign to encourage children to play outside and seek entertainment in the environment to address growing Nature Deficit Disorder. This is something I feel passionately about and want to encourage parents to get stuck in to reverse the trend. Check out the link to their excellent website Outdoor Nation and, while you’re at it, why not pop National Trust membership on your Christmas List so you can explore the changing seasons at your nearest  location.

Catchphrase: Anyone for a game of conkers?

Left wanting more?